The unavoidable Challenges in loving relationships 

Here are some challenges of your OPTION II under OPTION I

In this context PK posted on Facebook: Creation is based on interdependence, seen all over the universe. Relationships work best on that very same basis as well, whether dependent nor independent. We are all sharing this Creation, from the very beginning, as part of Creation. A child's body is dependent for a few years, on a caring environ, but as a being, plays best interdependently. What are your ideas about interdependency?

 This is tempting me (top line) to have my p-Pandora box split my p-essentially conscious perception
 into its 2Cd-OPTION I onset (INTERNATIONAL/intellectual, 31-left-wing-socialism of thinking global) from its 3D-substance (NATIONAL-42-right-wing-liberal-media-democratic-socialism of acting local) when my >6/B3 qualification (personal respons-ability) is insufficient, limited by giving in to others. Similarly for Melissa (bottom line 2Ed left-wing // 2D right-wing, responsible for §0-sustaining the >6 very best).

When I then defended#2 my C-creationist d-design with

My response: You mean life is dissolving in inter-dependence, the president of the ETH (the high global ranking Federal Institute of Technology in Zürich) is right that it is all a decaying chemical-physical process - or mentally, fading opinions away into the zeitgeist? No substance, no love, no fulfillment; nothing to understand, all "anything goes" as long as it goes or what...? A social Darwinian struggle for attention/clicks... polluting the planet until life fades away on it, arguing until relationships become sour - good for consumption or sublimation, people blowing themselves up as zeitgeist prophets being stuffed with undigested food/non-understood hints, coughing up; like humanity at large [Facebook Video]; you and me void of any meaning, at best zeitgeist speakers...like you???

Life deals with what is fulfilled - e.g. the glass, even if it just seems half full. OPTION I zombies argue in the empty space of virtuality; they just see in their illusionary absolute freedom, e.g. want power over everything, even about what can only be understood to make sense, like innate laws. I reserve the right for me to be free from being misunderstood and coerced with substance less excuses/rhetoric (spin) (such as "I do not understand anything about you!") which is just attempting to negate my X-existential substance trying to force me as above, to fit somehow some zeitgeist hype...

against PK's Ch-approach aimed at h-dominating the discussion as zeitgeist-prophet:  

PK: Just enjoy the aliveness/vitality: each should walk their own path /way, to become/get more and more aware or insightful. Thanks to experiences and learning, and we can awaken into who we really are, behind all the ( our) concepts of our thinking minds ??

 Then somebody like DM was triggered to realize that (me/9Pv+PK/1Rm) are indeed, on the common ground of our EXISTENTIAL LOVE CODE dealing M-maximally, me (top-line of our Pandora box) E-evolving what really h-determines desirable relationships on a basic#1 level, PK (bottom line) pretending to be C-creative with zeitgeist hypes about obviously h-obsessed with other-determinedness thus challenging others to take his more mass-attractive side. His master-mind approach is the onset for mobbing and foul compromises in the name of fake-peace of the Chamberlain-Hitler type of "peace in our time" for winning an election, and for others to pay the thus increased price (eventually more then 50 millions deaths and all the blood, tears, sweat, pain and loss of World War II)! However, to restore the real peace requires overcoming OPTION I's divide and rule...

DM's-view: You're all making it too black or white for me. We have to be ourselves or eventually we feel bad - we are in the world to relate to each other - it is always an ongoing process - just never give up and when you are up against a barrier -wiggle a lot!!

And last but not least, this discussion challenges Melissa, who started it with a seemingly harmless Facebook post to take sides, or even unfriend, scapegoat, mob someone, or just let the discussion run, staying above the noise with dignity. Most people hope to thus create a wave to increase their Google priority, others join in to side-track from the essence; almost everyone is just feeding the zeitgeist evolution, hardly anybody is open to learn anything worth mentioning the next day. Such is the envisaged evolution in the virtuality of the social media so that people remain sheople; or pawns of the mighty with this modern, and at first less cruel but self-perpetuating, and for a few even a lucrative circus, more effective for their hidden agenda than the arenas of the Roman empire...

Here is how the Swiss intellectuals moved to the leading edge of OPTION I, in 1991 with: "700-years of Switzerland is enough!" Since then, they have focused of become more successful in getting tax payers money to successfully undermine the 6Ba-Swiss substance. So once again (with Lenin preparing the Russian Revolution in Zürich before 1917, Hitler getting financial support in his critical phase 1925 after being released from prison . where he wrote "Mein Kampf", for his armed rebellion, and Kim Jong-un could make up his §3-mind 1995, in the Swiss capital Bern from the age of 12-14 in a private school), the intellectual scene of substance - and country betrayers of Switzerland was a initiating breeding ground for the INTERNATIONAL-socialist ZG-zeitgeist, against which Switzerland was founded 1291, overshadowing the real achievements, such as founding the Red Cross, Peace keeping missions, good international services and giving real refugees shelter, in the European wars, whole armies of them, and some some 3000 Jews, saving  them from annihilation by the zeitgeist's ideologies... 

Let us face it, Interdependence is as trivial a fact like breathing, being nice is a nice ideal, but if that is all there is, we are tring to teach birds to fly (preaching fish about water) thereby becoming a sugar cube ourselves dissolving in water, understanding nothing to be fulfilled, in seeming freedom, actually preaching nihilism with its infinity of anything goes - until the Titanic runs into the iceberg - blindfolded by rhetorical illusions following the false prophets of the zeitgeist, betraying self and one's relationships. And all that while talking about love without lovingly understanding anything, ignoring that "unconditional love" ends up in disappointment, rape and disaster beginning with win-lose, ending up with lose-lose relationships. They loved the Titanic so much, that they gave her the freedom - to run into an iceberg wrapped in the rhetoric that she would be unsinkable, greedy to win the rat-race to New York to gain more mass-attractivity and business. Similarly a little boy a grew up and loved his guinea pig so much, that he hugged it to death. And then we all wept at the burial. Now grown up he would say the same thing about me as at the top of this dialogue.

How do you face such challenges now that you know and can no longer plea ignorant?

The answer that works beyond opened-up Pandora boxes is 222-internalzing the relationship truth; fully revealed inside one's OPTION II by dealing consciously with any a-inner and p-outer input like here, towards caring implementation...