Here is a hopeful OPTION II example of being part of the solution in a relationship pointing towards a desirably sustainable future. It can only be achieved by focusing on a common commitment, with each at the start being aware of his and her OPTION II essential §1-§2 resources. On an unconscious level that is called "falling in love", on a conscious level it is the onset of a commitment for a common project:

The substantial common ground (existential "foreplay") in the relationship of Peter with Melissa began with both of us p-perceiving what is true about the mainstream way human systems are dealt with, (in 2012 when I stood up against a famous spin doctor in Mannheim who was preaching wine and drinking water). Consciously notice what is really written on all walls of human history (blood, sweat and tears, and hardly any lessons learnt and yet light from above is always available) behind us:
The prevailing OPTION I to deal with each other is based on considering humans as unfulfilled breathing persons. This has disastrous consequences. In Wikipedia, the following wordy mass-attractive OPTION I term says person means “a human, that has certain capacities or attributes such as reason, morality, consciousness or self-consciousness, and being a part of a culturally established form of social relations such as kinship, ownership of property, or legal responsibility. The defining features of personhood and consequently what makes a person count as a person differ widely among cultures and contexts”. So the ZG-zeitgeist just needs to have the intellectuals evolve/redefine the key nouns to frame humans into their vision to suit them to fit their so-called humanistic ideals and its evolution and hypes as role models beyond any relevance as master of the substance- and godless, virtual universe...

My pay-off for p-perceiving the common ground of the intellectual environment between Melissa and myself with §3-integrity is a perspective on my G3-path which following the experienced G4-truth on it, leads to my G5-life-fulfillment. This relationship truth makes me follow it with a project to support going beyond having to compete for mass-attractivity under OPTION I, where I am rightfully, for lack of interest, inferior, and if I were recklessly, thoughtlessly negligent of my §3-integrity, that could make me jealous, just as Cain was toward his more 'successful' brother Abel, that is in view of the ZG-'God'.

Melissa’s pay-off gives her a §2-purpose, and followed up with §3-integrity that leads to a §0-sustainable way of life for her beyond the OPTION I prejudice about her as I-conceptually aimless. The sustainable experience in our relationship makes her immune to people who have outsourced their OPTION II to OPTION I by trying to lure her away from her §3-integrity with that prejudice in order to weave/spin her into the ZG-zeitgeist! Then as "one of them", she would no longer challenge them with her, for them, non %1-socially compatible I-concepts. So they would no longer be harassed by her concepts about how to live a healthy life [Facebook]; to the detriment of all of us, and to the benefit of the "health" mafiA! Only if she withstands the "animal brain" psychology to simply follow her +2 desire/lust to treat the corner stones like stumbling blocks in an impressive smart way for herself, avoiding the -4 work/stress of applying the required substantial creativity to discern one kind of "stones" from the other, can she preserve an uncorrupted mind. So it is important for Melissa to understand [Facebook] not just health issues, but how her innate >6 very good corner stones TRANScend he point of view to serve her OPTION II. Only then can she can discern between the latter from her OPTION II inhibiting blocks/ hypes that make people PREceding understanding/stumble under the everything but >4 peaceful TRAP-OPTION I. Falling into such pre-trans-traps is basically unhealthy as its inherent dynamic is one of self-destruction...

Thus we both p-perceive that under OPTION I, we live in a world where fulfilling relationships is becoming rarer and rarer. It is not too hard to recognize that when and where you have been disappointed by applying personally-neutral#2 hypes/pre-trans-traps/wordy recipes with their spin suggesting there is no need for any inner involvement on your side, and then decide to simply work for socially successful relationships without conscience. Only if you resist this challenge and meet it, can you have a §0-sustainable G3-path ahead of you. But that is in principle seen as being not %1-socially correct, so people are instead tempted to following the spin of what is supposed to be %1-socially compatible.

 STOP HERE ; your default OPTION I prejudices about genuine people's §3-integrity are in danger of being exposed as leading to failure. However, if you begin to relate to some hope about your innate OPTION II, realizing the utter disaster of the OPTION I fake news, it makes sense for you to continue here on the path of personally relevant understanding, then we are in both in it together to fulfill our relevant commitment.