We, me Peter and Melissa, are aware that if we fail in the OPTION II relationship approach, we would, like anyone else, be damaged by falling back into yet another wound caused by hurtful meaninglessness. We gained that awareness based on the courage to begin our relationship, against all the odds under OPTION I. We p-'fell in love' and then consciously handled the unavoidable failure with L2-timely exchange of project-oriented competence. And that included L3-turnarounds from misunder-standing in our M-commitment to each other, before it was too late, i.e. before the otherwise, lacking understand for too long, point of NO return from the possible fulfillment.

When partners do not fulfill their hX-qualification in the appropriate social dimensions as a necessity for §1§2/synergy, it shows up painfully; in me by sufficiently enhancing B3§0/B2 and with Melissa §0B5/H2, which in other words means instead of "sining" / emancipating from the relevant relationship truth! Then covering up the disappointment with a fig leaf (Melissa picked one for me walking along the Limmat in Zürich...), with a hidden agenda, people begin to interfere with the other’s social impact dimension. The fig leaf is pretending to be “good” and "helpful" to each other to allow side tracking from the otherwise possible synergy. Thus thrown out of paradies, we specifically would be at best left with the phantom f-"feeling", like after an amputation, of how it could have been, if we had R-resolved the challenge of p-falling in love on our common ground of a M-commitment (their are 86x86/2=3698 possible ELC-relationships with the OPTION II parameters used here, so don't draw any general, undue psychological conclusions! Thus thrown out of the promised paradise of our relationship, then I,

Peter would end-up as too challenging for Melissa with my F9-expectations, once more seen as an OPTION I §3-inferior 13-People-Prophet. Such wearing down failures could eventually leave me without understanding, as an "old soul" cautiously castrating my own X/13-self. The ZG-zeitgeist would like me to become "human" like all the others; another mere breathing animal to be survived and forgotten by the spirit of the time like most of the almost 10 thousand million people who have ever lived on this planet. Then the scientists leading the ZG-zeitgeist would have another proof that even our two lives are in "essence" simply a decaying chemical-physical process which evolved in a cold universe after a Big Bang. And that would prove the mainstream nihilistic philosophers right, that "God"/their ZG-Zeitgeist, never really existed, or is dead. In fact the ZG finally passed away on Nov. 24. 2016 triggered to die, by Donald Trump, while it was already in the intensive ward. Should I go too far in reference of this kind of the >1 very bad in my h-living space, with Melissa, she might turn away. She seeks to qualify with the >6 very good in her h-living space, towards >4 peace. Should I, rather than handling my h>1 challenge with me X-qualifying with the >6 very good my being to handle it, with a m-tensely presumptuous hidden agenda, say by interfering in her 7Op/h-living space of exerting F7-influence with me p-preparing her O-objectives, she might also become emotional. Should I even overwrite her claims with my 9Pp/X-preparing F9-basic P-processes, which she is not yet open for, say in a moment when her §3-integrity is corrupted by OPTION I prejudices and temptations by others, then

Melissa could retreat into her seeming splendid isolation into a cell singled out of an organ (which is my X-being's way to relate to the environment, while hers is more like a useful organelle such as chlorophyll in a cell - functionally speaking - no value judgment intended). Then disappointed, I could p-perceive her as a PeopleGroupie simply trying to F4-manage "her" people at all costs, with her 11-PeopleWorker's intellect as people with less drive's, "benevolent dictator" motivating them to do the hard knowledge-work for her. In that present world of §3-prejudices, it would be self-destructive, and our good intentions would remain unfulfilled. Melissa would remain with underdeveloped, OPTION I aimless §3/I-concepts, I would appear inferior in §3/c-profiling my content. Then I could get A-angry at her, and G-guilty about no longer being able to reach her with my OPTION II and vice versa.

Without the grace, the emotional XmAGX-cycle (the first incredible discovery which has allowed a rapid development of APS since 1979, and potentially ending the misused monopoly of various institutions on in "forgiving sins". Mind you, they still tinker in churches and psychology without understanding. Left to sich OPTION I devices, we would end up in a vicious circles and lose our previously promising M-perspective for a relationship in "paradise": Me a 2nd daughter like "Cinderella" (family model) without anyone to relate to, Melissa as a 1st Son, like the prince in that fairy tale trying in vain to find the princess that fits the shoe he picked up. Then we would both be our lost Rf-experience - in short, without understanding, business as so far usual, without a future to pM-S-relax - left with a R-re/dissolving f-feeling about the once share h-living space, confusing each other - a state which politically eventually leads to war as the last, forced relationship of interfering in the other's living space rather than fulfilling self in one's own...

So it is time for OPTION II, for an appropriate knowledge work with a desirable future, which the OPTION I cult can not ever deliver other than as a challenge to overcome it with the Creator's help. Love is not just about hugs and kisses. It is existentially about trust, understanding, opening up to each other as well as to oneself to allow the ELC-synergy, the precondition for sustainable life! To get there via the necessary experience, love requires and allows compromises, sacrifices based on the will to make the relationship sustainable - check what the bible says...